Pain, pain go away come back another day! Following on from my Long Distance Relationships and Fading Love post it’s been a few months since I broke up with my girlfriend. We’d been together three years and it was my first real serious relationship.

As you may know my finances and personal life have been seriously messed up over the last few months. I haven’t blogged, tweeted or felt alive for the last few months. I needed some timeout.

My recent breakup and credit card bill has hit me hard. My student debt levels are not healthy and set to grow each year. Just like money, relationships need to be managed to be maintained. I may have been too honest about what needed to change between us for the relationship to last.

Experiencing a break up is a bad thing to get through. When it happens it hits you hard especially if it takes you by surprise. You not sure how you’ll deal within until it happens to you.

You are probably feeling down, upset and alone. Even angry that the relationship is over. Keeping your mood up and broken heart intact is extremely painful. Missing someone does that to you it makes you vulnerable and your mind can do a runner.

Adjusting to single life feels strange and since the split I’ve had a few months to cry, reflex on the relationship and think about where it went wrong. Looking back many factors were involved. I think it was the distance involved and a lack of trust we had in each other.

You can try having sometime apart but that won’t solve any niggling doubts. I wish the break-up never happened and emotions are still raw. Trying to remain “friends” doesn’t always work out. Arguments may still flare up as you try to come to terms with the situation or blame each other for mistakes and bad feelings.

Give yourself time and space. If you aren’t coping too well then speak to family and friends or an independent support group.

Don’t rush straight into any other relationship immediately after a break-up. Rebounds aren’t helpful and could be just a way to bury or ignore your feelings. Make sure you get over one bad relationship before committing to another one.

As people reject your love, your ideas, your work, your beliefs at least I know in my heart I tried by best, yet I guess you can only change what’s under your control. The rest you have to let go.

This is only my second blog post and already the thing is driving me crazy. I have zero knowledge of blogging. Me and technology don’t get on very well. In fact we hate each other. I’ve been tinkering with this site all flaming evening trying to get my head around it. I’m not sure where the hell to start blogging with it.

I intended to go clothes shopping today and visit my tailor instead I’ve waste quality shopping time trying to get this beast of a blog looking and feeling how I want. I’m proud of the fact I’ve managed to publish online and I’ve tried many different templates but all the ones I’ve tested look like piss-flaps.

Next I wanted to get some widgets working by including recent posts, my Twitter feed and social networking buttons. This went OK by pasting in some code in a widget box. I’d also like a nice logo and a blog header at some point. Sadly I don’t think my digital drawing skills are up to that so I’ll see if I can politely befriend a creative type to Photoshop me something for free. I’ll buy them a drink or give them a can of tomato soup as payment.

I’ve had enough triumphant blogging for now.  I’m still not happy with it yet but I’ve spent more time fiddling with this website and blog templates than enjoying a cold beer. For now it can “BLOG OFF”.

Still bits to tweak. I’m sure I’ll get the hang of it. Later in the week I’ll add some blog pages as it stands I’ll just soldier on like all good bloggers do by heading down the local for a pint.